The Language of Love
Questions for Couples
The purpose of this daily exercise is to increase communication and cultivate deeper forms of intimacy and connection in your relationship.
Choose a time that works best for both of you to sit down together. It could be in the morning before starting your day, in the evening after dinner, or any other time. Find a quiet place where you won’t be interrupted for 15 minutes. Put away your phones and other devices during this time. This will help you both focus on each other and your conversation. Sit down, facing each other, and take a minute to slow down, relax and clear your mind.
Take turns answering the question of the day. Each person should have the opportunity to answer without interruptions or distractions. Listen to each other attentively. Be open and honest. After answering the day’s question, take time to talk about it, ask other questions, and reflect on the conversation and how it made you feel.
Week 1: Attraction
January 8-14, 2023
SUNDAY
What was the first thing that attracted you to me?
MONDAY
What is my most attractive physical feature?
TUESDAY
When do you find yourself most attracted to me?
WEDNESDAY
What are some silly or odd quirks about me?
THURSDAY
What is your favorite memory with me?
FRIDAY
What personality traits do you feel I most admire about you? (And then, tell each other which personality traits you admire most about each other.)
SATURDAY
What are 3 things that make you proud of me?
Week 2: Dating
January 15-21, 2023
SUNDAY
What is something from our dating days that you would like for us to bring back into practice?
MONDAY
Spend some time planning an incredible date night. Map out the details on paper. Put it on the calendar!
TUESDAY
When do you feel most loved by me?
WEDNESDAY
If there was one daily habit that you would like me to do every day that would make you happier, what would it be? (Non-sexual)
THURSDAY
What is one time that I made you feel awesome about yourself?
FRIDAY
Who first pursued who? Do you remember the pick-up line used? Spend some time practicing fun pick-up lines on each other!
SATURDAY
Spend some time with each other looking at old photos that you’ve taken together.
Week 3: Sex & Culture
January 22-28, 2023
SUNDAY
How can we maintain purity in our relationship?
MONDAY
Were you able to schedule a meaningful date last week? If so, talk about what you enjoyed.
If not, talk about scheduling a date and put it on the calendar!
TUESDAY
If you could only choose 5 words to describe me to someone who’s never met me, what would they be?
WEDNESDAY
What is your favorite way for me to show you I love you?
THURSDAY
Start the habit of kissing goodnight every night.
FRIDAY
Send a fun or flirty text today. Talk or laugh about it tonight.
SATURDAY
When you think about the next year, what are you most excited about?
Week 4: Covenant Keeping
January 29 – February 4, 2023
SUNDAY
How can I best serve and pray for you this week?
MONDAY
What activity makes you feel close to me?
TUESDAY
Do you remember a line from our vows? Take some time to create a new vow.
If you’re not married, dream about your vows for the future.
WEDNESDAY
What is one thing you want us to do more of together?
THURSDAY
What is your favorite memory from our wedding day?
If you’re not married, what do you look forward to about your wedding day?
FRIDAY
Text each other 5 compliments throughout the day. This evening, discuss what was meaningful to each of you.
SATURDAY
Go for a walk today and hold hands as your walk together.
Week 5: Intimacy
February 5 – February 11, 2023
SUNDAY
What compliment would you love to hear from me?
MONDAY
Hug each other for 2-5 minutes. Discuss your experience.
TUESDAY
If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
WEDNESDAY
What is the pain in me that you wish could be healed?
THURSDAY
What do you want our life together to look like 5 years from now? 10 years from now?
FRIDAY
Spend time together watching TV or a movie and cuddling on the couch.
SATURDAY
Surprise your significant other with a gift. Don’t overthink it. Be creative and have fun.
Week 6: Conflict
February 12 – February 18, 2023
SUNDAY
What is one way we could improve our conflict resolution skills?
MONDAY
How did your family deal with conflict when you were growing up?
How has that impacted the way you deal with conflict today?
TUESDAY
Valentine’s Day Challenge: 20-second kiss or recreate your wedding kiss.
WEDNESDAY
What advice would you give our younger selves?
THURSDAY
How can I best support you when you’re feeling angry?
FRIDAY
What do you think makes us unique and different from other couples?
SATURDAY
Play “Truth or Dare” until one of you forfeits. The winner gets a massage.
Week 7: Enduring Love
February 19 – February 25, 2023
SUNDAY
What is your favorite thing about married life so far?
MONDAY
If you could have dinner with a famous person (living or dead), who would you choose and why?
TUESDAY
What kind of world do you want for our family?
WEDNESDAY
If we had unlimited funds for one vacation, where would we go?
THURSDAY
Share an example of your partner’s kindness and generosity.
FRIDAY
If the world ended tomorrow, what would you do on your last day?
SATURDAY
What gives you hope for our future?
